October 10, 2021 2 Comments
I recently spent time going through questions from followers -- thousands of them from this past year. Some people share their stories. Some people simply want to be seen and loved. But many of them are about being spiritual but not religious.
For so many years, those two words -- religious and spiritual -- have been used synonymously. The blurred lines between religion and spirituality were intentionally manufactured by organized religion to control the masses. By harnessing their beliefs they could convince them that the only way to the Holy was through church doors.
Let’s pause here to say this -- and it's not meant to insult religion -- it’s merely a fact. Your affiliation with or affection for religion should not be mitigated by that fact. Accepting the flaws in our collective history reveals our spiritual maturity. Rejecting those flaws is concerning. Organized religion and their religious cohorts would make great strides in healing some of the wounds caused by their dark history if they only admitted to it instead of watering it down and dismissing it as “the past, and we just need to move on.”
That said, religion intentionally hijacked pagan and communal traditions, supplanting them with religious holidays, such as Easter, All Souls Day and Christmas. This forced the suspension of the people’s traditions and amplified the importance of the newly established church traditions…
and they were called sacred.
Sacred then became associated with religion-sanctioned events that left no room for anything else.
The truth however, is that sacredness, holiness, and spirituality belong to all of Creation, not just to the religious. That is the truth that I and millions like me, are now realizing as we reject the construct of organized religion to explore the unknown paths of the spiritual wilderness.
The data shows that more people now consider themselves spiritual but not religious, intentionally making that proclamation to stand in our truth. There’s sacred wisdom and deep holiness here. Embracing the spiritual but not religious path expands us in indescribable and undefinable ways.
This path isn’t for the faint of heart. It can be lonely and unsettling when the road map you've been relying on is no longer there. This paradox can be overwhelming, sending some back to church where they silence their internal longing and “fake it in the pews,” which is a phrase used by those who say it’s easier to fake it than risk being ousted from the only spiritual community they’ve ever known.
It’s understandable. It’s lonely out here.
But when you trust the call and begin to untangle from the indoctrination that no longer serves your highest spiritual self, what arrives cannot be contained inside the walls of a church.
It was never intended to be.
Beloved, if you hear that call, know that it’s real. The spiritual but not religious path is waiting to welcome you with open, loving, and affirming arms.
Only you can discern your spiritual journey. Those who encourage you to remain entrenched in religion may have selfish reasons to do so -- after all, the institution must keep people in the pews to ensure perpetuity.
Spend time in quiet contemplation, listening for cues that will feed your soul and enrich your life -- not to what others have to say. Spirituality suffered when it became weaponized and harnessed to control us this way.
May the mystery of the spiritual wilderness entice, enrich and bless you -- and remind you who you truly are.
May 11, 2022
Oh my. You’ve put to words what I’ve lived for over ten years. I celebrate that I did step out of the pew. my soul wouldn’t allow me to fake it in the pews any more.
Learning to hold space for my connections who continue to follow Christian dogma has been tougher work than my own work in losing and leaving lots of connections. Leaving has allowed me to draw closer to and have faith in the holy and the sacred.
I never want to make anyone wrong in this so I can be right. And I also realize the importance of being true and right for my soul! So glad to stumble onto your website and IG account!
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November 20, 2022
“Chasing the belonging.”
She said those words during our podcast recording. We had just spent the last hour together in a conversation that was so comfortable, as if we’d known each other a lifetime. Perhaps our souls did, because there was an ease in which we navigated heavy topics about the tension that now exists in this country, the challenges of peeling away indoctrinated layers of belief, and the desire to find ‘your people’ when you’ve lost your spiritual community.
November 03, 2022
I love your articles! I discovered you on TikTok, which I’m fairly new to. I hadn’t heard the term “deconstructing christian/Christianity” until TikTok and realized I’ve been doing that little by little for years! I just didn’t know others were too! On a completely weird other note (not that you should do anything different!) – I keep getting “Handmaid’s Tale” vibes when you sign off with Blessed Be. It’s a little trigger for me. Maybe it coming from you will help me not be triggered😳😬🤔